Want to know the truth about long distance relationships? Here's some of the things I've learned along the way.
Let's rewind to 2013 and imagine that you have just asked me about long distance relationships or pretty much just relationships in general. My answer then? I would have told you to pack your sh*t and run for your life. My answer now? Pack your sh*t and run for your li......I joke, I joke.
I entered my first ever proper relationship in 2016, my last year of University, and for 8 months or so I was merrily living a loved up life where if I wasn't working, I was either out on cute dates or at home, cuddled up, watching silly reality TV shows and films. Life was sweet and I was as happy as Larry, but of course, a spanner had to be thrown in to the works.
It came to the point where my three years at Uni were sadly over and it was time to move back home. Not only did I have to temporarily leave my new life and my best friends behind but I was now entering my worst fear.... a long distance relationship.
It was a change I was not ready for. From spending every day together to weeks apart, I knew it wasn't going to be plain sailing, but we were ready to give it a go.
I know there are plenty of people in the same position as me, and I feel like you really don't know what you're getting yourself in to until you're already knees deep. I wouldn't change it for the world but here's a little heads up and the truth about long distance relationships, just in case you were wondering.
FaceTime will become your new best friend
You better get used to seeing your partner through a screen because believe me, FaceTime and video calls will be rinsed. I used to absolutely hate talking on the phone let alone FaceTime but it's the closest you're gonna get to seeing your partner without actually being able to see them.
Prepare to ride a non-stop emotional rollercoaster
The scariest rollercoaster with the biggest loops, twists and turns at that. One day you will be feeling on top of the world and as if everything is coming together, the next you will be an emotional wreck and not know what direction you're going in. It's stressful to say the least and it's very hard not to take your frustration out on each other but it's important to remember communication is key and ultimately, it's all part of the journey.
You will be broke
I think we all know that relationships can be expensive in the first place., no matter what the distance. But if you throw the price of constant train tickets and petrol money in to the equation there is no doubt that your bank account is going to take a beating. But hey, what does forty quid matter if it means you get to see bae for a few hours.
You'll probably start living vicariously through other couples
Jealousy is literally inevitable. If you didn't think you had a jealous streak in your body, think again because it's likely that that switch will be sparked - not in a bad way though - you might just find yourself ogling loved up couples (real life and make believe) and feeling a little envious.
There's always a constant pressure to 'do something'
When you haven't seen each other for a few weeks or even months there's always an underlying pressure to make the most of the time you have together by doing something extraordinary. It's always good to go on dates and adventures with each other but IMO, the best times are when you're literally just catching up over a takeaway pizza and movie.
Time is your worst enemy
Trying to organise and work around each other's schedules can become a gruelling task. Then when you do finally manage to find a day, it goes at the click of a finger and it's back to the countdown. Time really is your worst enemy with this one, but if you can take an hour or a few days with each other, you will.
It's hard but it's all worth it in the end.
There's no doubting that long distance relationships can be testing but if you both want it to work then you will do whatever it takes and at the end of the day, when you finally get to see each other, it's totally worth it.